
Virtual Trauma Therapy That Actually Heals
For complex trauma, religious trauma, childhood wounds, and ancestral patterns
Licensed in Colorado, California, Texas • Therapeutic coaching available worldwide • Virtual sessions only • LGBTQ+ & kink/poly affirming • EMDR Level II trained • Trained directly with IFS founder Richard Schwartz
You've tried therapy before. It didn't work.
You understood everything intellectually. You could explain your trauma to anyone who'd listen.
But your body still carried the tension.
Your nervous system still hijacked you at 2am. The same triggers still sent you spiraling, just with better vocabulary to describe what was happening.
Here's what nobody told you: talking about trauma isn't the same as healing trauma.
What You Really Need:
✓ Heal trauma in your nervous system, not just your thoughts
✓ Integrate spiritual healing with evidence-based therapy
✓ Reclaim parts of yourself that got buried under survival strategies
✓ Address inherited patterns that aren't even yours to carry
You weren't born broken. You learned to survive.
Now it's time to remember how to live.
Quick Navigation: My Approach • Types of Trauma • What to Expect • Is This Right for You? • FAQ •
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How I Work with Trauma Differently
I don't just treat trauma. I help you reclaim the parts of yourself that got buried under it.
✦ IFS Parts Work for Trauma
Your trauma responses aren't character flaws—they're parts of you that learned to protect you.
Some of the parts we'll work with:
The part that goes silent when criticized
The part that abandons your needs to keep peace
The part that stays hypervigilant, scanning for danger
We'll get to know these parts, understand what they're protecting, and help your authentic Self lead with compassion instead of survival strategies.
✦ Virtual EMDR That Actually Works
I'm EMDR Level II trained and specialize in virtual sessions.
What this means for you:
Process trauma memories without reliving them
No drowning in the story
Your brain files trauma where it belongs—in the past
Often feels safer because you're in your own space
Virtual EMDR is just as effective as in-person sessions.
✦ Nervous System Regulation
Your trauma lives in your nervous system. We'll work with somatic techniques to help you:
✓ Recognize when you're activated
✓ Develop tools to regulate back to calm
✓ Rewire your system for safety (not just manage symptoms)
No more three-day spirals after someone gives you feedback or sends a weird text.
✦ Spiritual Integration
Trauma doesn't just wound your psychology—it can disconnect you from your spiritual center, your intuition, your sense of purpose.
This is especially true for religious trauma survivors who may feel spiritually homeless or afraid to trust their inner knowing again.
I honor the spiritual aspects of healing without bypassing the very real work of processing trauma. We'll help you reclaim your spiritual autonomy while healing the wounds that disconnected you from your authentic spiritual self.
✦ Ancestral and Inherited Trauma
Sometimes the trauma you're carrying isn't even from this lifetime.
What we'll explore:
Family patterns living in your DNA
Inherited nervous system activation
Ancestral wounds passed down through generations
Past life themes and soul-level patterns seeking resolution
We'll help you identify what's yours to heal and what you can lovingly return to where it belongs. Sometimes healing requires addressing patterns that span lifetimes.
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Types of Trauma I Specialize In:
✦ Complex Childhood Trauma & Childhood Abuse
Growing up in chaos, with emotionally unavailable parents, or in systems that taught you to abandon yourself. Including physical, emotional, sexual, and psychological abuse.
Shows up as:
Chronic self-doubt
Difficulty trusting yourself
Feeling like you're "too much" or "not enough"
No clear "event" to point to, just years of learning the world wasn't safe
Hypervigilance and difficulty feeling safe in your body
Sexual disconnection and difficulty with intimacy
Patterns of choosing unavailable or unhealthy partners
✦ Religious Trauma & Religious Abuse
Healing from harmful religious experiences, spiritual abuse, and religious systems that caused psychological harm.
Common experiences:
Being told your intuition is "dangerous" or "demonic"
Spiritual experiences being dismissed or shamed
Purity culture and sexual shame
Religious deconstruction and family rejection
Spiritual bypassing that avoided real healing
Religious leaders using power to control, manipulate, or abuse
Spiritual gaslighting and religious coercion
I understand the specific wounds that come from systems that should have been safe but weren't, and the complex grief of losing both your faith community and your spiritual foundation.
✦ Developmental Trauma & Narcissistic Abuse
When your early attachment relationships taught you that love was conditional, including growing up with narcissistic parents or in narcissistic family systems.
Shows up in adult relationships as:
Losing yourself completely to maintain connection, OR
Pushing people away before they can hurt you
Needing constant reassurance or avoiding intimacy altogether
Difficulty recognizing your own needs and feelings
Chronic people-pleasing and fear of abandonment
Attracted to narcissistic partners or relationships
✦ Inherited and Ancestral Trauma
Patterns that run in your family line, fears that don't match your actual life experience, or carrying emotional burdens that feel too big for your own story.
Signs you might be carrying ancestral trauma:
Fears that don't match your actual life experience
Family patterns that repeat despite your efforts to break them
Feeling responsible for healing your entire family line
✦ Identity and Transition Trauma
Trauma around coming out, religious deconstruction, leaving toxic family systems, or any major identity shift where you had to choose between being yourself and being safe.
Common experiences:
Coming out in non-affirming religious communities
Losing family/community during deconstruction
Being rejected for questioning beliefs
Hiding kink/poly identity from family/community
Sexual shame from religious purity culture
Being pathologized for consensual adult relationships
Having to choose between authenticity and belonging
What You Can Expect
✦ Sessions That Feel Different
We're not doing the traditional therapy thing. We'll use:
Your body, not just your brain
Movement and breath to process what's stuck
Visualization to heal what your mind can't reach alone
Spiritual integration (to the extent you're comfortable)
Ritual and energy work when it serves your healing
This is trauma therapy that honors your whole system—mind, body, and spirit.
✦ Healing That Feels Real
You'll notice changes in your body, not just your thoughts:
✓ Better sleep
✓ Less reactivity
✓ Ability to stay present during conflict
✓ Trusting your gut instead of second-guessing every decision
✦ Parts That Feel Heard
Instead of trying to get rid of your anxiety, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, we'll understand what these parts are trying to protect and help them feel safe enough to step back so your authentic Self can lead.
✦ Nervous System Shifts
You'll develop tools to recognize when you're activated and regulate back to calm quickly.
✦ Spiritual Reconnection
Many trauma survivors lose connection to their intuition, their spiritual gifts, or their sense of purpose.
As we heal the trauma, you'll likely find yourself reconnecting to these deeper aspects of who you are.
Is This Work Right for You?
✓ This Work IS For You If:
You've done therapy before but still feel controlled by your triggers
You understand your patterns intellectually but can't seem to change them
You feel like you're living from survival mode instead of your authentic self
You want therapy that honors both psychology AND spirituality
You're LGBTQ+, kink, polyamorous, or ethically non-monogamous and need someone who celebrates your authentic self
You're healing from religious trauma and need someone who gets both the spiritual wounds and healing
You're healing from sexual or religious shame around your identity or relationships
You're ready to do the deep work, not just manage symptoms
✗ This Work ISN'T For You If:
You're looking for quick fixes or surface-level coping strategies
You want to stay purely in your head and avoid feeling things in your body
You're not ready to question old patterns or family dynamics
You need immediate crisis intervention (this is deep, transformational work)
Ready to Heal Your Trauma From the Inside Out?
If you're tired of understanding your trauma without feeling free from it, let's talk.
I work with people who are ready to move beyond surviving their past and start thriving in their present.
This isn't about:
Forgetting what happened
Pretending it didn't matter
This IS about:
Reclaiming your power
Remembering who you were before the world taught you to be afraid
Next Steps:
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your specific situation and see if this approach feels right for you.
Bethany Russell:
• Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado, California, & Texas
• Training with IFS Founder, Richard Schwartz
• EMDR Level II Trained
• Virtual Sessions Only
• LGBTQ+ & Kink/Poly Affirming
• Therapeutic Coaching Available Worldwide
FAQs
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IFS (Internal Family Systems) is incredibly effective for trauma because it doesn't just treat symptoms—it heals the parts of you that are still carrying the wounds. Traditional therapy often tries to get rid of anxiety, depression, or PTSD symptoms. IFS helps you understand that these aren't disorders—they're parts of you that learned to protect you when you couldn't protect yourself.
Research shows IFS is highly effective for complex trauma, and here's why: trauma fragments us. It creates parts that get stuck in survival mode while other parts try to manage daily life. IFS helps you get to know these parts, understand what they're protecting, and help your authentic Self lead with compassion instead of being hijacked by survival strategies.
What I love about IFS for trauma is that clients consistently tell me it's the therapy that's worked the quickest for them—even clients who've had years and years of trauma therapy before finding me. That's because IFS doesn't just help you understand your patterns; it actually transforms your relationship with the parts of you that are stuck.
It's not about "fixing" you or getting rid of difficult emotions. It's about creating internal cooperation so you can respond to life from your center instead of from your wounds. My clients often say it's the first therapy that actually made sense of their inner experience.
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Yes!
Research shows virtual EMDR can be just as effective as in-person sessions, and many clients find it feels safer to process trauma in their own space. I'm trained specifically in virtual EMDR protocols and have years of experience helping clients heal trauma through online sessions. -
I'm a private-pay practice, but I can provide superbills for potential insurance reimbursement. Many clients find that paying out-of-pocket allows for more flexibility in treatment approach and frequency.
There's also a significant privacy benefit to private pay: your sessions, diagnosis, and treatment details aren't shared with insurance companies or stored in their databases. This means complete confidentiality for your healing journey, which is especially important for LGBTQ+, kink/poly, or religious trauma clients who value discretion about their personal lives and therapeutic work.
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I wish I had a magic ball and could tell you the exact amount of sessions (and please steer clear of therapists who do give you an exact number!), but I can’t because every person and every trauma is different.
Some clients notice significant shifts within the first few months, while deeper trauma work might take longer. I promise we'll check in regularly about your progress and adjust our approach as needed. -
You don't need clear memories to heal trauma. Much of my work focuses on how trauma shows up in your current life—your nervous system patterns, relationship dynamics, and the parts of you that learned to protect you. We can work with what your body remembers even when your mind doesn't while still addressing the core wound and not just the symptoms.
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Absolutely. I have extensive experience (personally and professionally) helping people heal from harmful religious experiences while honoring your current spiritual beliefs (or lack thereof), religious deconstruction and the grief that comes with losing your faith community, spiritual bypassing that avoided real emotional healing, purity culture and religious sexual shame, having intuitive gifts pathologized by religious communities, spiritual abuse from religious leaders or communities, and finding your authentic spiritual path after religious trauma.
I understand both the spiritual wounds AND the healing that's possible on the other side.
Ready to Start Your Healing Journey?
Let's talk about your specific situation and see if this approach feels right for you.